In my life, timing seems to rule just about everything. Why audition if I'd have to turn down anything that could conflict with the possibility of me being Miss NY? However, I moved here so that I wouldn't put my life on hold for Miss VA...so isn't that contradictory to the whole point of living in New York? The timing would have been perfect for me to win Miss VA last year, but it didn't happen. Had I stayed in Virginia for one more year, it very well may have worked out. But I didn't. I moved to New York. Now I'm torn (correction: was torn) about the timing of following my dream to be on Broadway and my last year eligible in the Miss America Organization. I've clearly made Miss New York my priority since I feel so strongly about the values of this organization and the amazing experiences it's already provided me, but there's always that question about if the timing is right. In this case, I'm choosing to make this the perfect time to be Miss New York simply because I know I'd be able to do a lot of good with that title, both for the Children's Miracle Network and with my personal platform. Broadway will still be around come July. However, is it always possible to choose? To actively make a decision that timing is moldable to fit perfectly with the circumstances at hand?
When it comes to situations like Miss New York, you can decide that the timing doesn't matter because what's at stake is more important than convenience. Is it the same in relationships? I think it's a little of yes and a little of no. I think that if the timing is very, very wrong- i.e. the person you meet is moving across the country, is already with someone else, is at a completely different stage of life from you, etc.- then decisions can be made to make things work despite the bad timing, but sometimes it's easier to just let things go for the sake of making life easier. Obviously, much of that decision to work with the timing has to do with the depth of the connection and the willingness of each party to deal with the consequences of bad timing...and most of the time, at least one person would rather wait for something a little less complicated to come around. Even in the case where you start dating someone who is at a different stage of life than yourself, you can bank on the fact that people will change and become more compatible once they enter the same stage. Should you stick around and wait for that inevitable change that you know won't come for another year/however long it takes for them to catch up (or for you to catch up)? Well, I guess it all has to do with if what could be outweighs the difficulties of what is.
As I write all of this out, I see that it's clear that most issues with timing can be dealt with if what's at hand is important enough. Sometimes, decisions to push through timing that isn't ideal are easy (like with Miss New York vs. my move to NYC to pursue Broadway), and other times, they take a lot more mental ping pong on the pros and cons table. At the end of the day, we can only do what we feel is best at the moment...even though each moment changes with the hand on the clock. That's not complicated at all, is it?
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